I try to keep things as simple as I can, when dealing with another person's privacy.
Respecting their privacy means, to me, not passing along info that they've shared in
confidence, or things that truly belong to them alone. However, when someone's actions
affect MY privacy in a clear way, it's no longer a "private" thing...2 ppl have become
involved. I'm one of them. If sharing how another person has hurt me helps my healing, and
doesn't cause them harm, then I believe that is loving. Bringing an addict's problem to
light doesn't "harm" them, when it is done so with caring, and true concern for my well-
being and theirs. That's difficult, but if it was easy, we wouldn't have such a problem
with it. I think their pain at knowing "others know" is a natural consequence of their
secrecy, which is a big part of addcition. It is triggered pain, not "harm".
  Secrets kill, and there is a difference between keping "secrets", and keeping
confidences. Every time I go thorugh the turmoil of trying to understand the difference,
that process alone helps me...in letting go of more of MY secrets, and feeling better
about those thngs that I DO keep private, that are healthy to keep private.